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Offline Engineer

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Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« on: October 14, 2007, 08:03:25 PM »
someone told me last week that is it bad for you not to have been in a relationship at my age .. am only 20 oh .. lol

can someone confirm this for me please ??  :-\

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #1 on: October 14, 2007, 08:25:57 PM »
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #2 on: October 14, 2007, 08:38:35 PM »
I don't think it is compulsory, it is one's choice. If your heart is not in it, don't go into it.

(are you gay? :P)
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #3 on: October 14, 2007, 08:42:55 PM »
gay ... lol  :D.. am not , and i have my reasons for not being in a relationship ...

am not in it partly by choice and partly by circumstances ...


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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #4 on: October 14, 2007, 10:55:45 PM »
please tell me part of your reasons so i can encourage my younger sister too. She is about your age and it's even worse for a girl you know.
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #5 on: October 15, 2007, 12:13:16 AM »
Bolex, I think it's a matter of choice like Kate just said. I'm few years older than you and I've not been into one either. But, it's all about seeing someone that worths the relationship and being sure that you are emotionally and mentally mature enough to handly it. No matter how much you trust, expect quarells, misunderstandings and the worst, break up or heartbreak.

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #6 on: October 15, 2007, 01:32:58 PM »
I'm quite your age mate and i am not in any relationship. Relationship is not a do or die affair, its not a natural phenomemon but a committment. Many people go into relationships because of one reason or the other but i dont advise anyone of my age to indulge. What would you gain from it? Instead you'll loose focus cause everything you have in your head will be this girl that girl and so on. Call a novice or anything you like for all i care you are not to go into a relation if you are nor fulfilled as a man.

Guys lets give this a thought and leave this girls to live their lives, they a future too you know. Any relationship you indulge in at this stage will be unhealthy so lets cooperate and keep that dignity.

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #7 on: October 15, 2007, 03:38:04 PM »
Mekoyo has said it all. I respect such guys and I believe you are telling the truth.

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #8 on: October 15, 2007, 04:23:35 PM »
Thanks man.
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #9 on: October 15, 2007, 10:28:57 PM »
Engineer... i don't tink it's a problem, like sm ppl said, it's a matter of choice n it's def not a do or die affair n u def don't need it in ur resume but it doesn't mean u shudn't go into one wen u find sm1 who's worth it.

   And i tink un-single peeps shud come and say sth, to know if their opinion is different from u monks :P ;D peeps
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #10 on: October 16, 2007, 12:10:21 AM »
my people and romance sha, engineer come expantiate o!
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #11 on: October 17, 2007, 05:08:33 AM »
if you are okay with cash and other things you can get married even at 20 no problem carry go.

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #12 on: October 17, 2007, 11:00:05 PM »
if you are okay with cash and other things you can get married even at 20 no problem carry go.
Sholly, that's so so funny. You said other things but had to clarify: 'CASH'

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #13 on: October 18, 2007, 11:04:33 PM »
Nothing really special bout that.
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #14 on: October 19, 2007, 03:36:16 AM »
Says who?

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #15 on: October 20, 2007, 03:09:38 AM »
Says me, not everyone is after cash.
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #16 on: October 29, 2007, 07:26:00 PM »
In summary i'ld so it is healthy to have friends of both sexes.It will give you a broader view.Don't keep off girls in totality,you can be friends without sex.
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #17 on: October 31, 2007, 06:25:01 PM »
Yea, true
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #18 on: November 02, 2007, 12:21:26 AM »
no . .
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #19 on: November 02, 2007, 12:59:06 AM »
Relationship is necessary later in life: BE FRUITFUL AND MULTIPLY SAYS THE HOLY BOOK.

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #20 on: November 02, 2007, 07:52:12 PM »
I quite agree with bits and pieces of whats been said by others but the bottom line still remains that a relationship is not a childs play thing. Dont go around toying with other pple's emotions a sound and matured mind is wat helps a relationship work well. To me if you're a guy under 21 it sure is not time for a serious relationship cut out peer pressure, your parents money that you flaunt around will not be the same when you start to work. Medical evidence shows that ladies have a higher maturity age than guys so if a girl is 18yrs her mental maturity is about that of a guy who is 23yrs dats on a scale of 1-5yrs. so at that age a lady will have a better edge managing emotional issues than a guy her age. Please bear in mind that medical evidence are not 100% representation of wat may sometimes be obtained. In all if you choose to get into a relationship, dont be scared to fall out if it does not work, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #21 on: November 02, 2007, 10:44:08 PM »
Men, this is Sparle-like. I just have to increase your IQ for that wonderful contribution.

However, it should be noted that brains are always different. there a million stances when the brain of a 17yr old guy is more mature and tollerating than that of a 20 yr old girl. It happens around us.

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« Reply #22 on: November 06, 2007, 04:57:22 PM »
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In summary i'ld so it is healthy to have friends of both sexes.It will give you a broader view.Don't keep off girls in totality,you can be friends without sex.

Make sense. You are making sense, keep doing your thing.

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #23 on: November 06, 2007, 07:34:12 PM »
Thanks Mekoyo.

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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #24 on: November 09, 2007, 05:01:05 PM »
welldone friend
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« Reply #25 on: November 12, 2007, 03:16:39 PM »
@ hollufikky, so true..
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« Reply #26 on: November 12, 2007, 03:47:46 PM »
So what we are saying here is that relationship is not a compulsory thing. Agreed???????
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« Reply #27 on: November 12, 2007, 06:43:06 PM »
We are not saying it's not compulsory...., we are saying it's not bad if u are not in a relationship at age 20.....
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #28 on: November 16, 2007, 10:27:13 AM »
At 20, there are so many things you would want to do. So many adventures to make, so many ideas, and getting into a relationship is one of them. But you can overcome this thought of relationships, why bulge into it when you are not ready to pay the price, when you are not, not matured.

Relationship at 20 is not compulsory i repeat, you still have your education to face, i know there some who have graduated at that age but i wont advice you go into it, cause it involves lot of things like maturity, etc.

I dont think there is anyone here who is bold enough to tell me he is ready for a relationship at 20
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Re: Is relationship a compulsory thing ?
« Reply #29 on: November 16, 2007, 10:38:26 AM »
guy, wetin be ur problem? do u want a relationship? ur 20 rite? at ur age u need an older chick, wit more experience. ;)