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Should i learn to have sex before i get married? Is pre-marital sex a crime?

My brother is worrying me about becoming a man before getting married.He said that his friends are laughing at him that his wife will be coming to them behind his back because he does not have the experiences to satisfy a woman.I have warned him that it is a lie and he can contract diseases and pregnancy and loss his life if care is not taking nothing that i have not explain to him but he keeps coming to ask again.What else can i say again that it is against the law or police will catch him?
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Re: Should i learn to have sex before i get married?
« Reply #1 on: January 20, 2008, 06:38:14 PM »
ok .

but wait how can he contact pregnancy ???

How old is your brother?


its not a crime to be male virgin .

ok now i am going to laff ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Re: Should i learn to have sex before i get married?
« Reply #2 on: January 20, 2008, 10:22:44 PM »
lol muki, u don mara :D :D

@ phboy.. seriously aw far bout the pregnancy part :D
On a more serious mood, I disagree with his friends, if there's chemistry btwn the both of them then it wn't be any prob. And ike muki said there's nothing wrong being a male virgin
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Re: Should i learn to have sex before i get married?
« Reply #3 on: January 21, 2008, 12:12:57 AM »
@ phboy,

Please, tell us your age to start with, cos I don't see how your brother can ever get pregnant unless you are talking about him impregnating someone. For diseases, sure as hell, even with condoms, the more partners you have the higher the risk of HPV. Tell him to channel his energy (and yours too) into money making first, then you can think of settling down, cos I can assure you, if he "starts early" things prolly gon crumble right before you and his hyena friends would be nowhere to be found.

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Re: Should i learn to have sex before i get married?
« Reply #4 on: January 21, 2008, 12:34:18 AM »
lol @ age.. true yarninigs nyways
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Re: Should i learn to have sex before i get married?
« Reply #5 on: January 21, 2008, 11:34:13 AM »
guy all of you are funny o!
this lil guy is seeking for your advice and you are making it look funny.i'm sure he made a mistake typing "pregnancy",what he must be referring to was not to pregnant any lady out of wed-lock.
i'm happy for the little man for the concern he has for his brother but to be frank the brother is man enough to know how not to pregnant or contact any infections.
sleeping with ladies will not make him to be perfect like any other activity or profession,you can have bunch of them and still be a mess.what he should be thinking of and planning has been said by penthome "tell him to channel his energy (and yours too) into money making first, then you can think of settling down," also not only that he should  watch out for gold diggers o!they are everywhere,they ripe what they did not sow.

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Re: Should i learn to have sex before i get married?
« Reply #6 on: January 21, 2008, 12:07:50 PM »
WELL ALLOW UR BROTHER ARRANGE HIS PRIORITIES FIRST...BUT WILL HE LIKE TO HAVE SEX ALL DAY WITHOUT FOOD TO FEED THE OFFSPRINGS DAT FOLLOW.. LET HIM RELAX THERE IS NOTHING MUCH TO LEARN ABOUT SEX.

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from what i can see here, your brother is far from getting married soon. he should chill and premarital sex is crime if the other person is underage.

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If he's a Christian it against the law of God.

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Phboy,

It is good that you have told  your brother about the various disadvantages of premarital sex. If he still insist on going through with it, then you have tried your best. He will face the consequences.  Nevertheless,if he is a christian , he should know that he wants to commit fornication--Galatians 5 verse16-26.

If he is thinking of condoms for protection, he is decieving himself because it has been proved not to be 100% safe It's 50-50.

Ask him if he is ready to be a father, and  a polygamist which usually takes place after some time because after he has had sex with her, ther is 100% assurance that he would not want to marry her in future. Believe, polygamy is an early grave.

Total abstinence is the key to a healthy and godly life. Every sexual intercourse outside marriage is a sin AND IT BRINGS ABOUT GOD'S PUNISHMENT.

wETIN HE GO BE. ??? ??? ???

He has only one shot at life, no second chance.!!!!!

Pray for him that he might understand all that you are trying to explain to him. Even the heart of aking is in the hand of God.

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Let me just add by saying your brother is confused and needs God's intervention and counselling.He should stay away from such friends for now. Take him to the teaching hospital to see scores of people dying everyday from stds of all sorts and remind him they were once like him. He should work harder at his studies and shun sex give him all the sex education you can and if he is shy which i think is the case you can help him by introducing your older female friends to him.
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to become a man is to have money house and car to cater for the family and not by being able to carry diseases to use to destroy his life and his wife. you become a man when you come of age.

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my dear ,tell ur brother, there is nothing to worry about not knowing how to satisfy a woman. if he is willing to learn there is nothing that is unlearnable about sex after marriage. u dnt have to have sex to b sexually sound. he can read books on how to make a lady happy sexually and they'd learn to explore themselves together after marriage.Not like its going to take forever to b an expert. so whts d rush. If the wife will go to his frnds for sexual gratification then, its bcos she wants to cheat or the guy doesnt want to learn howto satisfy her which i dnt think he would do. So he should wait till marriage,im already proud  knowing someone like him exist.

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Guy, if ur brother is adamant, he should go ahead, she will see what ever he wants, if he didnt know when God design his manhood, he should know that the same person that positioned the thing there will teach him how to use it

In essence some things are not learnt, u grow up to know it

Is he going to get a lecturere to teach him how to do it now? If no then he should chill out

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Nice one there penthome.

My friend please tell your brother to keep his cool and not be decieved by his friends. Premarital sex is bad and it has its disadvantages which everyone knows.
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Slokus, pls speak for urself, we hv virgins nd virginresses here o
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abi oooo ;)
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where den dey?

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over here ;D
Woman without her man is nothing!

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Can i confirm that?

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y not??

call my Dad ;D
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U wan do the opposite of wetin Obasanjo Daughter in law do, na ur papa confirm u abi?

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See ur Head ???

i mean he is a gyneacologist he knows better
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Okay o,does he confirm evryday at work too, as a gyneacologist

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i go wound u o....

i said call my Dad he will give u permission to enter the examination room with him >:(
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i dont think i will like to enter with ur Dad, let me enter alone

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case closed........u dey fear Papa ???
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he no get liver ;D ;D ;D
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Na so person go cLaim virgin so tey, she no gree the husband enter am after wedding. By the time the guy enter am, she don sag.